Q: My boyfriend watched too much porn. I don’t think he finds me attractive anymore. What can I do? (L. Sanchez, aurora, IL)
A: Well first of all, watching porn is not a bad thing. Men watch porn because there is always going to be the allure of the unknown. Women are better and dealing with this. Your boyfriend doesn’t necessarily find you less attractive. Men could have sex everyday (with a different girl) if it was morally legal. It would be better to try to understand why he’s watching smut. If you go long periods with no sex then yes, there’s something wrong. It can be something about you, or it could be something about him. Point is you have to talk this kind of shit out. Instead of asking me what you should do, you should be asking him. If he loves you he will talk, honestly, about what the problem is. When porn replaces real human contact, it’s usually a matter of the normal sex life thang being way to boring. Chicks in porno do what men like. The kind of things that aren’t normal. Slobbering oral, instant “seemingly painless’ anal. These kind of things don’t occur naturally in a relationship. What girl is going to anally douche every time you want to get down to have anal sex. And guys, you have to ponder on what you would be willing to do vs what you think your woman is willing to do. I love porn, but I find I like ‘normal’ in my sex life. Maybe your man prefers abnormal. You never know till you ask. Talk it out, or maybe try blowing him while he’s watching it. You never know, you might like it. Both of you keep in mind that true love, the kind that lasts forever, requires hard frikkin work. Work on the 1 thing that keeps you both together, don't let it be a passing phase like sadomachism, Tuna Melting, or teabagging. Those things may be fun for the first 2 months, but like everything else in life, it will fade.....and what have you got left?
Q: I’ve been secretly dating a girl for 7 months. I’m female and I often feel conflicted about doing so. I am in love with this girl but I’m afraid if we ‘reveal’ our bond that things will go downhill. What should I do. (J. simpson Atlanta, GA)
A: You know, I’ve dated about 2 black girls in my life. Being black that’s strange. I’ve mostly been in relationships with women of other races. Not once in any of these relationships did I ever think about what the world was going to think about what I was doing. Life’s too short. People are starting to care less and less about this kind of stuff. There are more important things for people to worry about. You love this girl than plan your life around her, don’t hold back. Anyone looking into your lifestyle obviously is lacking a life of their own. Who knows, in a couple years you’ll be able to marry her if she turns out to be the one. My advice is to lover her squeeze her kiss her, and throw a good lick in their for me!
Q: My girlfriend likes to throw shit in my face. Like if we’re watching a movie or tv she will comment on how hot a guy is on the screen. If we’re listening to music she’ll chime in on how sexy a singer is right in front of me. I don’t like it, but I feel if I say something she’ll know I’m insecure and use that to her advantage. What should I do? (G. Lewis Dekalb, IL)
A: You might want to try another girlfriend. Women (and men) who do that haven’t fully matured yet. They are looking for a reaction. When they get one they feel reassured your with them. When they don’t they feel your not into them. At least that’s what I guess. Why else do that? Nine times out of ten ANYONE can point to something that 10 times hotter than what you got. But that’s not supposed to be the end all in relationships. Love the one your with or leave them alone. I don’t know dude, I couldn’t tolerate that nonsense. Of course folks aren’t blind and your going to find folks to be hot, but it seems like you can keep that stored in the old mental rolodex.
Q: I love my boyfriend, but the thought of being with a stranger excites me. I’m real close to getting with someone I’ve been in contact with the last month or so. What should I do. (A. Lewinski Austin, Texas)
A: You don’t LOVE your boyfriend. Break up with him and then go fuck. If it turns out the person you screw is screwed up, lather repeat rinse with someone else, but don’t go back to you ex. That just not right.
Q: I’m a Irish white girl living in a small town. I’ve never been with a black man before, and find myself attracted to a black guy who works in the same building I do. We have flirted with each other but that’s as far as I am willing to take it. I think my parents would disown me, and my friends might look at me different. The problem is I think of him day and night now. What should I do? (L. Thomson Boise, Idaho)
A: Well this can be tough for a lot of people. It was pretty easy for me. I get with the one’s that say yes, I don’t care if their skin color is green. OF course I didn’t have to worry about how my family would accept me because really, I wouldn’t give a shit. Life is too short to put shackles on your wrists in an effort to make everyone happy except yourself. Do whatchalike. When friends and family turn their backs on loved one’s like that, it shows how shitty they are. I mean really. I bet the majority of the assnuts that behave this way probally go to church and believe in God. Whats that about. I’ve dated mostly white women in my life, mostly due to my personality. I’ve never had to think about what I was doing. Of course Illinois doesn’t really give a shit about who you date so. Your situation could be different. There are places down south you won’t my black ass fo’ sure. I can’t live in that kind of climate. Many of the black girls I talk too who live down south have a lot love racially charged venom in them. It’s very black or white. I suppose living in those types of areas might affect who you kick it with, but it would have to be pretty extreme for it to determine how your going to date. Hint…hint. If you live in an area that is holding you down, take a good google earth look around. There are so many places you can live where you will never have to worry about race if it comes to this. Where I live it’s not a real factor. Heres something I noticed out where I live. You see mixed couples all the time, in fact there are a growing number of black women who are dating white men. I say heyall yeah, and there’s a good reason for it. I guess while black men are trying to become rappers and nba stars, Black women’s goals are a little more grounded on earth. They are going to school and are having great careers and in the process are finding there’s a serious lack of qualified black men who can complement them. They now have to say yes to WHOEVER is qualified no matter what race or nationality, unless they want to invest in 2 to 3 vibrators and dildo’s a year for the rest of their lives. Sooner or later it will be un-common for interracial dating to happen everywhere. It’s about the speices: heart, lungs, kidneys, spleen, liver, ect. We are all the same, no matter how much we tend to separate ourselves. I say if it’s not going to get you killed, then have some interracial fun!
Q: Are you for Obama or McCain? (A. Tetteh Brussels, Belgium)
A: Neither. I haven’t heard anything specific from these guys that I think is going to solve immediate problems in the United States. It’s been nothing but talking points, millions of wasted dollars, and vague logic hidden behind slogans. And oh yes, I’m not one of those African Americans who’s going to vote for someone just because they are African American. That’s a recipe for disaster. Most black folk I talk too about Obama (something I really don’t like to do, you mention 1 thing they consider to be negative about him and my goodness…..you get a jaded empty history lesson about him) have no idea about what he specially stands for. No idea what his policy is going to be on immigration, outsourcing, energy, transportation, the invasion, education, ect. Strange thang. I hope whoever wins the presidency is legit and not just another money maker for constituents. I hardly doubt that will happen though. Demopublicans have been working together as one force of nature for decades and will continue to do so. The very last thing they have on their agenda is the do nothing but work tv watching video game playing eating for health problem’s average American. My answer is I’m for the American people. That’s what has to change for there to be change. We can’t afford to sit back and take it up the ass with no Vaseline from our government (who taxes us like it’s FUN) and the big businesses there in bed with. Voting for a new face for the white house won’t do jack shit, and I think everyone knows it deep inside. Look into your heart. Take a deep breath and smell the mierda.
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